Nature's Obligations
» Sunday, January 31st, 2010 at 07:27pm |
We have heard it said, "Ignorance is bliss."
But I say, "Ignorance is the inability to recognize misery."
For it is true:
Without the ability to recognize a thing as it is, according to the attributes of its character and upon the conditions of its function, no remedy can be made.
Furthermore, it will be found that, through Vanity and Egotism coupled with Ignorance, we have a strong tendency to deny, excuse, or justify that which runs contrary to what we often term Happiness.
But Happiness is a result of Natural Law, which is the Effect of a Cause.
That Cause is founded on specific conditions, which are established only by undertaking and fulfilling Nature's Obligations, specifically the first.
For Nature holds us responsible for two Obligations in Life, the first lending to the second.
It will be found that it is upon the Ignorance of Nature's Obligations which can be held accountable for much — if perhaps not all of the recurring problems, crimes, and miseries that plague a Family, Society, Nation, or Civilization.
Would we all be given definite Knowledge of Nature's Obligations early in Life, hold ourselves accountable for undertaking them, and personally dedicating our lives to working out the problems back of them, the Moral fabric of Society would refine and enrich itself through Cause and Effect.
Thus, here they are...
Nature's Obligations
NATURE'S FIRST OBLIGATION is the commission to take responsibility for and work-out the Destructive Impulses of our natures, through which the conditions of the mind are finally prepared for Prosperity and Love, back of Happiness — the essential prerequisite in successfully undertaking Nature's Second Obligation.
NATURE'S SECOND OBLIGATION is the commission of starting a family and raising children so that they are fully prepared for Life by the age of Maturity, yet it is only by first accomplishing Nature's First Obligation that it truly becomes possible to successfully fulfill Her second — for without Self-Mastery (or at least an adequate understanding of the operations back of Morality), no child will have learned Personal Responsibility and Self-Reliance by the age of Maturity, the keystone of Nature's Second Obligation.
It will be found that a child's Self-Reliance at the age of Maturity is in direct relation to the State of Marriage of the parents.
And the State of Marriage is in direct relation to the dynamic established in the Marital Union.
The State of Marriage could be said to be the "blending" together of the collective attributes of each individual spouse's Character to makeup a third, invisible Moral Character, which is that force back of and responsible for the formation of the children's Characters.
Should a child move through Life on the "default" he adopted through the influence of his parent's State of Marriage, he will unconsciously reproduce that exact same dynamic in his own marriage through his own Character and by attracting a woman who corresponds with it, whereby it will be reproduced in his own children (should they also refuse to seek Knowledge and work-out their crimes under Nature, and Nature's Great Creator).
And on it goes, if uninfluenced or unaffected.
Furthermore, it will be found that our irresponsibility in taking on Nature's Obligations is the reason why superstitions are born, procreate, and survive centuries after their births.
Not only that, it will also be found that back of many of the common superstitions still running rampart today, is due, in no small part, to a fear of or misunderstanding of Sex.
The Danger of Dogmatic Abstinence
There is perhaps no greater barrier in the preparation of a man's Moral Development for fulfilling Nature's Obligations than Dogmatic Abstinence — that impish child of Jealousy and Lust, perhaps the vilest combination of Destructive Impulses the Soul is susceptible to.
Yet the common justification the dogmatist gives us in defense is:
"If you have something special to share, shouldn't you save it for a person you truly care about? After all, if you share it with others, it's not special anymore."
According to the facts and operations of the Human Soul, it will be exposed that the truth is just the opposite — for it will be found that, under such Dogmatism, the secret motive and focus of the relationship falls not on the dynamic within the Union itself but on Sex and Obsession, no matter how it is justified to the contrary.
Furthermore, through this secret motive it will be observed that nothing aids in the fostering of Jealousy and Lust in the Soul more than Dogmatic Abstinence, those enemies of Marriage and assassins of Love.
Let it be known with absolute certainty:
No marriage can or will truly succeed until both spouses have mastered the Destructive Impulses of both: Jealousy and Lust.
Without this accomplishment, there can be nothing resembling harmony in the Union. Either both will not see it — or one partner will not see it, while the other is "forced" to compensate for their partner's ignorance.
This, the only outcome of Dogmatic Abstinence:
One believes in an illusion, the other avoids addressing it and instead caters to it, at their own expense.
Is there any worse misery in Life?
Deliberate Promiscuity
The desire for promiscuity is in direct relation to the Moral Character of a man:
There is no greater urge for promiscuity than in those of very low Moral Character. Though the desire is surpressed and compensated for, often through acts of crime and violence, it is the most pronouced, even though there may be no outward sexual expression.
Though the actual urge for promiscuity is less in the libertine than in the dogmatist and their Moral Character is more evolved than the devoutly religious, the the desire is acted upon readily and given outward expression through any available channel, where it often reaps havoc in relationships.
Finally, there is little to no urge for promiscuity in the those of high Moral Character. When no woman is present who he knows would harmonize with his Individuality or he deems himself not yet prepared for Love (upon the awareness of any lingering dominant Destructive Impulses), the Sex urge is transmuted in such a way as to give the best benefit to others, that Great Force known as Altruism.
It is upon these exact grounds, that, if promiscuity is deliberately used as a "training room" to identify and control the deadly combination of Jealousy and Lust within one's Character, with the intent of developing Moral Character — perhaps in the same way that it's necessary to take several falling and shaky steps before we learn to balance — it serves a man two Constructive purposes:
- The experience and skill to establish a harmonious dynamic is gained throughout the process of failing through a list of relationships, thereby learning the essential lessons to attain the ability sought after, thus truly preparing him to lead in marriage and please his wife, and
- The Knowledge necessary to identify a woman of high Moral Character and who harmonizes with his own Individuality — instead of opting for the instant gratification by defaulting to the first option.
For it will be discovered that, through constant association, the true Character of a person often eludes us the more familiar we become with them. Close association often has a strong tendency to cause us to lose the capacity to make distinctions based on the the facts of their Character.
Instead, they become recognized as "so-and-so":
"That's just how they are," we say, without truly questioning or identifying the impulses or true motives back of their actions.
For it is a fact:
Without points of contrast, and based on direct experience, a thing cannot be truly known.
Therefore, it will be found that the majority of "virgin marriages" go down in misery — except either one or both will not recognize their misery, due to the "missing points" omitted from their experience necessary to make the contrast and see the truth.
Denial is not too far behind.
Which is why Ignorance is not bliss; it is only the inability the recognize misery.
For if we find ourselves in a marriage to a woman, and that is the only or limited sexual experience upon which we have to make our distinctions (which is none or next to it), how is it possible to truly know whether it is, indeed, a happy marriage or not.
It might also be wise to note that by observing "virgin marriages" (after the one-to-two year novelty wears off), the man tends to drop the act he unconsciously put on to win her and becomes self-righteous, which causes the wife to become disagreeable yet she submits to maintain as much harmony as possible, only to succeed in brewing silent animosity for and toward him.
The End Result?
True Love between husband and wife — or that dynamic, when established, where neither has a desire to control the other, both consciously and unconsciously — only truly accomplished through the attainment of Self-Mastery, is the foundation of successfully fulfilling Nature's Second Obligation.
It is the fundamental condition necessary for the raising of children, whereby the child is fully prepared to leave the family with a strong sense of Personal Responsibility to his Brothers of Society, and with complete Self-Reliance.
All this due to having had the opportunity to associate with and model those of high Moral Character, and, through association, absorb the Essential Attitude into their own Souls.
Only thus, can Nature's demands and purposes be fully satisfied.
For we as men, and in direct correspondence with Nature's Obligations, have two critical roles to play in Life:
- Husband, and
- Father
One unto the other, both backed by our Moral Characters, that definite determinant by which we succeed or fail in fulfilling our Personal Responsibilities, under Nature and God.
For it will be found:
The man of low Moral Character will make for a poor husband because he will be incapable of satisfying the needs of his wife, and a poor father by encouraging his children's social Irresponsibility and by tearing down or undermining their Self-Reliance instead of helping them build it up within themselves...
Just as a man of high Moral Character will make for a great husband by fully satisfying each and every need of his wife, and a great father by actively aiding his children in developing their sense of Personal Responsibility and Self-Reliance.
Thus, if we hurry into marriage before we've developed our Characters and learned how to satisfy women as a sex, and in so doing also gained enough Knowledge to identify a Moral woman (what I used to refer to as a "Quality" woman) — or stated differently, one who has gained an adequate amount of Self-Awareness and learned to exercise a suitable degree of Self-Control over her dominant Destructive Impulses — whereby a high Moral State of Marriage is established in the Union, we are almost destined to fail at fulfilling Nature's Second Obligation, having already failed in Her First Obligation.
This is especially important for us men, as women tend to adapt themselves to their men much more readily and perhaps to a much greater degree than the reverse.
However, all is not lost if this path has not been followed.
There is an alternative:
It is found in both partners cooperatively deciding to undertake Nature's First Obligation together (the Pursuit of Self-Mastery) by working through their Sins in a spirit of mutual effort, with an understanding of the Dangerous Dynamic, until that which I refer to as True Love (where there is no desire to control each other) has been established in the Union as the State of Marriage.
Only then can a man raise the Left Pillar upon which rests the Headstone of Happiness, that Gateway to the Greater Life!
| Published by Jay Julio under Women and Relationships |
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