The Psychology of Masculinity
» Sunday, February 14th, 2010 at 08:06pm |
"The Psychology of Masculinity" was an audio program I had intended to record and release last fall, based on my personal philosophy.
For certain reasons, the only thing completed were a bunch of rough (and somewhat weak) demos that have since been deleted or lost — aside from a few I just discovered today... so I'm posting it below.
It's a philosophy for commanding respect from others in return for giving them respect, and is the result of over 6-7 years of deliberate investigation, oberservation, organization of data, and the creation of "communication techniques" founded around my discoveries in relation to Human Nature.
Perhaps the day will come when I have no interferences and my circumstances will better allow me to bring you the polished presentation of the work that has taken up so many years to discover on my own.
But for now, this will have to do...
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Gateway to the Greater Life
» Saturday, February 6th, 2010 at 01:32pm |
Only by following Nature's Pathway can the Soul be truly satisfied. For in so doing, a man finally arrives at the realization of the Greater Life.
It is upon these grounds that a man's dissatisfaction in Life is in direct relation to when and where he diverges from Nature's Pathway, just as his satisfaction is in ratio to the degree to which he stays the course and follows through.
For the Pathway of Life is found in building the Gateway to the Greater Life, and then walking through it, as follows:
- SELF-MASTERY is the foundation of the Gateway to the Greater Life.
- It's headstone is HAPPINESS, which is erected and supported by two pillars, PROSPERITY and LOVE.
- The domain and the terrain traveled beyond the Gateway of the Greater Life is ALTRUISM — or the mutual effort of husband and wife, governed by their Moral State of Marriage, in working toward the Service of Humanity.
And though, as men, by our essential natures, Prosperity is our domain and Love is woman's, both must work out Nature's First Obligation and make the First Great Achievement, Self-Mastery.
With this accomplished, comes the unfoldment of Masculine Power in the man and Feminine Receptivity in the woman, whereby the State of Marriage becomes capable of supporting Happiness, and so finally establishing the conditions back True Altruism.
The Two Pillars of Happiness
Just as there are two pillars that make up the Gateway to the Greater Life, there are also two corresponding "composites" within a man's (and woman's) Character that make for a weak foundation.
Should a man attempt to erect his pillars upon such a foundation, they will fall, along with the Headstone of Happiness. Thus, blocking the pathway to Altruism, whereby the Soul is finally and fully satisfied.
That said, I want to share the specific Destructive Impulses I've discovered that make for a foundation of sand, and therefore undermine the conditions necessary for Self-Mastery in direct relation to both, Prosperity and Love.
It should be well noted:
Prosperity and Love are established only by and through the absence of these specific Destructive Impulses.
Thus, the man who, either through his ignorance or deliberance, so violates Nature's Constructive Laws and admits any of these Sins into his Consciousness (whereby they are given time to ferment and translate themselves into habitual outward expressions) condemns himself to Scarcity — though he may have a million dollars in the bank — and Loneliness — though he may be surrounded by or bed dozens of women.
At least until he can recognize his transgressions and work out his crimes under Nature's Jurisdiction.
For the Anti-Pillars of Happiness — Scarcity and Loneliness — are nothing more than states of mind brought about by the continued admission of specific Sins, regardless of the external conditions which may temporarily be present.
It will further be discovered that those who deliberately attempt to attain the outward "symbols" of Prosperity and Love (or money and women), in spite of the presence of these Destructive Impulses, have no other reason for doing so than to compensate and appear to the world as if they are not miserable — perhaps with the secret motive of attempting to hide this very fact from themselves.
Thus, let us discuss the specific Destructive Impulses which weaken the Foundation of Self-Mastery, decay the stability of the Two Pillars, topple the Headstone of Happiness, and ultimately undermine the Domain of Altruism.
For with the problems before us, we can learn to erect the Gateway to the Greater Life, of which all the Great Masters attempted to teach and reveal to us, no matter how others have perverted their messages through the sloth of their dogmatism.
For it is true:
"What you attempt to take from your neighbor, you truly only take from yourself."
Left Pillar: PROSPERITY
The Destructive Impulses back of Scarcity are those of ENVY and GREED, of which Man is more susceptible to.
It will be found that the man infected by Envy will waste his effort attempting to stop or sabotage his neighbor from creating the kind of life he wished he had the courage to create for himself.
Yet would he recognize that he could use that same effort not only to his own betterment through his own Act of Service, of which he will be compensated for in relation to his effort, but that by stopping another from serving humanity in their chosen way, he also strips his Brothers of Society from living a better life through its benefit.
And in so doing, Nature brings the Great Level upon him and condemns him to poverty by weaving into his Character those outward expressions that repel others who might have otherwise collaborated with him in building his own life as he wished.
On the other hand, the man infected by Greed will spend his effort coercing or stealing the possessions of his neighbor instead of earning them through his own Individual Effort or Act of Service, of which he would therefore be justly entitled to Compensation.
Yet should he understand that by taking something that has not come to him through his own Individual Effort, the time will come when it is no longer available to him and having come to depend on it, he will find himself in a worse financial situation than before he placed the Value of Money over the Value of Service.
Again, Nature brings the Great Level upon his Soul and penalizes him through the Effects of his Sin.
It is upon these grounds that it will be discovered that Prosperity — which is only erected through an Act of Service to Society — can be firmly founded through the Mastery of the Destructive Impulses of Envy and Greed.
Until a man has accomplished this, permanent Prosperity will forever elude him.
Right Pillar: LOVE
The Destructive Impulses back of Loneliness are those of Jealousy and Lust, of which Woman is more susceptible to.
The operations of Jealousy and Lust perfectly parallel those of Envy and Greed, with the exception being the Soul Craving back it:
Where Envy and Greed are the murderers of Prosperity, Jealousy and Lust are the assassins of Love.
The man who allows himself to become infected with Jealousy will waste his time attempting to stop his Brother from finding the Love he feels himself to missing out on.
But should he come to the realization that by attempting to manipulate and control women (or a woman) into conforming to his own standard of conduct, and thereby, in his mind, making them not unlike any other possession he may own, he creates within their minds a severance of Trust, that great prerequisite of True Love.
Thus, Nature administers the Great Level, and since Love is spiritual in nature, that which a man attempts to take by physical force — or its social equivalent, "logical argument" — will forever elude him.
On the other hand, the man so infected by Lust will forever search for the satisfaction his Soul craves not through its Spiritual Channel — whereby it is truly found — but solely through the Physical Channel of Sex expression.
Yet would he understand that Sex Attraction seems to be Nature's motivator or "call to action" in the Pursuit of Love and not Love itself, his Soul is forever left vacant. And like a drug, he finds himself addicted to the short-term pleasures at the expense of the long-term satisfaction of his Soul
Again, Nature brings the Great Level by killing off the finer sensibility of his nature and debases him to that level of the animal, no longer capable of True Love.
Thus, it is upon these grounds that Love — only found through the absence of desire to control another — can only be firmly planted in the Foundation of the Gateway to the Greater Life through the Mastery of the Destructive Impulses of Jealousy and Lust.
Until a man has made this accomplishment, True Love will always be that mirage that disappears just before he arrives.
And until a man succeeds in mastering both sets of Destructive Impulses — Envy and Greed, and Jealousy and Lust — the foundation of his Character will be nothing but sand, incapable of supporting the two pillars upon which rests the Headstone of Happiness, crowning the establishment of the Gateway to the Greater Life.
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Pride's Obituary
» Monday, December 28th, 2009 at 07:16am |
"Abashed the devil stood, and thought how awful goodness is."
- John Milton
Being "smart", "right", "good", and "helpful"... there have been times when I've held great stock in most of these so-called "virtues".
Now I find little else more disgusting, despicable, and degenerate.
Looking back, I've realized several things:
Never was I more ignorant than when I thought myself bright.
Never was I more wrong than when I considered myself right.
Never was I more immoral than when I believed myself good.
And never more discouraging than my unsolicited advice helpful could.
On the contrary:
Proclamations of my assumed Knowledge made me the Fool.
Demonstrations of my righteousness made me the Outcast.
Advocations of my dogmatism made me the Villain.
And acts of unsolicited advice or aid made me the Hypocrite.
Thus, an important lesson I've learned is this:
"Pride in a Virtue makes it more base than its opposing Vice."
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Pity and Envy in Relation to Personal Transformation
» Monday, November 2nd, 2009 at 11:33pm |
If you didn't have one, imagine that you had a childhood friend who you remember as having had "difficulties" and who seemed to struggle in many ways that were "normal" to most.
He always seemed to be lacking in various areas and maybe you can recall pitying him or looking at him as somewhat of a "casualty".
And moved by your Destructive Nature, perhaps you even secretly looked down on him and viewed him as inferior to you — or perhaps you even found yourself "using" him to excuse your own short-comings and failures:
"Oh well. Things could be worse. I could be in his shoes."
But now what if as the two of you grew-up, you slowly started going your own ways and every time you saw him in the future, you noticed small changes.
And after some time passed, you started observing that he had made up for his major short-comings and everything else you secretly "had on him" and gloated over for him lacking in.
Not only that, you also started noticing that he started excelling you in all the ways you used to pride yourself on having "on him" — and in even greater ways than you.
How would you respond to that realization?
For certainly, the reality is undeniable. He has changed. He has risen above his short-comings and developed himself, even further than you.
Who you once thought was "below you" is now obviously "above you".
To anyone who has not yet mastered their Destructive Nature, he would be envied and deeply despised from the bottom of their Souls.
Perhaps being faced with this situation and having little choice but to admit something like this to ourselves can be an insult to our egos — but that is not the reason for the illustration.
In fact, it is just the opposite:
Have you ever considered that there may be people in your life who've known you for a long time, who view you in a very similar way as our "struggling" friend?
As something of a "casualty".
Maybe they've secretly looked down on you to get a feeling of their own so-called superiority for themselves.
Or maybe they've used your short-comings and failures to justify and excuse their own failures by comparing and realizing that theirs "aren't so bad" by comparison.
And with this in mind, to you who want a Greater Life (where there is money enough to fulfill all your needs and desires without worry and the rampart sex urge has been refined by True Love), based on the observation of our own Destructive Natures and recognizing that we all share this dark side (unless we should achieve Self-Mastery), what affect will YOU have on those people when you start realizing your Dream — or your Ideal Lifestyle?
Is it not likely they will respond to you just as we would have responded to the realization that there was much, much more to our friend than we believed?
After all, who would not envy him who we thought would never amount to anything if he gains everything we secretly crave for ourselves?
Should you live through it, you will no doubt find it so.
For this has been observed upon the facts:
When someone can no longer deny that the way they've viewed someone else has been in gross error — and especially if their opinion wasn't very high in the first place — it is almost always inevitable that their pity of the past will transform into the ugliest form of envy in the present.
In fact, if you make a close evaluation of pity and envy, you will find that they are one and the same thing — the only difference being the form taken:
One is passive, the other active.
Thus, to you who want the Greater Life, one of the inevitable prices that must and will paid is to be despised and envied to an equal measure of the pity you have received.
Therefore, the greater the pity you endure today, the greater the envy you will have to face tomorrow.
The Master Jesus, who is labeled "God" by the superstitious and a lunatic by the ignorant may not know what he meant when he said:
"No prophet is welcome in his hometown."
For being based on Human Nature, which never changes no matter in what age, his revelation rings true equally today.
We know that a "prophet" is someone who can "foretell" the future.
But how many of us know that prophecy is more a matter of mathematics than it is so-called "magic" or "talent" or "a gift"?
How many of us know that the prophetic ability seems to have its foundation in a man mastering his Destructive Nature, and in achieving Self-Mastery his awareness expands, wherein he can make full use of his Reason and Intuition, and calculate events that have not yet arrived in time?
Which is the key point:
It seems that what He meant was that those who have watched us grow from childhood into adults think they know us, along with our limitations.
They have seen us in immaturity and at our worst, giving expression to our destructive tendencies.
And because they think they're right about us, perhaps based on observations made before any form of transmutation has taken place within us — like Moses who was a murderer before He later evolved into a Master — it is difficult for them to see the truth about the present for the simple reason that:
We tend to perceive others according to what our opinion of them was during the time that we got to "know them" rather than on the basis of their present, true character.
And perhaps more importantly, we tend to view others in relation to who's been known to hold the frame in the relationship.
On this very basis, it might be worth noting THIS particular natural tendency concerning our Destructive Natures:
Those who give others pity believe they're holding the frame. When the pity turns to envy, it is with the realization that they were never holding it.
They only believed they were.
Thus, upon these grounds, you who want the Greater Life, mark it well when and from whom you receive pity...
For I assure you, you can prophesy as easily as you can that 1 + 1 = 2 it is exactly these people who will be the ones who will envy and despire you most from the bottom of their Souls should you better master yourself, opening yourself to the benefits Nature endows the man who does!
There is, however, one variable which is found under the condition that a person who issued pity overcame their inferiority complex between the time of their commission and the time that you overcame your faults and weaknesses.
Aside from this variable, it will be found there are no other exceptions.
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Why People Shun the Facts and Reject the Truth
» Monday, October 26th, 2009 at 10:05am |
Those among us who have accumulated some wisdom know that Ignorance, Superstition and Fear are the tools used by the cunning, deceitful and vicious minded to control and manipulate others into conforming to their selfish agendas.
To you who have an eye for Human Nature, you know this fact to be self-evident.
A simple yet common demonstration can prove it so:
If a person is ignorant of the true Nature of Death, he is easily impressed and convinced, in the same way that the potter molds the clay, with the superstition that after death he will either go to Heaven or Hell.
And faced with the fear and belief that he can and may lose his Soul if he does not do what others have told him he must, he stops thinking for himself and becomes a "puppet" to be danced around the stage of life by those who can leverage him to their best advantage.
Yet if this Truth is clearly pointed out to him, he will refute it.
In many cases, he will become argumentative, angry and hostile.
He may even mistake the presentation of the Facts for condemnation, judgement, or the apparent favorite — "persecution".
Why?
For to what good does it do a man to justify something that is not only not in his own best but also often treads on the rights of others?
It will be found that so-called "persecution" (as it is commonly referred to by fanatics) is nothing more than an excuse to justify their ignorance of the destructive effects their "evangelism" evokes through the Instinctive Natures of others.
Furthermore, history has proven time and time again that the brave ones who have had the courage to step forward into the eyes of the public and present the Truth concerning the Great Problems of Life are silenced, usually by death.
Why?
Just what is it about the Truth that the seeming majority reject?
Why have practically all the Great Masters from Jesus to Krishna to Zoroaster, who have known the Truth and attempted to bring it to us, been murdered for it?
And what might be worth taking note of is this:
After each of these Masters have been slain and with their words still popular and "in demand" by the people, the "authorities" of the time took their messages and injected them with the very superstitions the messages where trying to expose and remove.
Where the messages original intents were to eliminate ignorance, superstition, and fear, they ended up devolving into vehicles to administer it.
So what do the people receive?
Is it the original message of their teachers?
Or is what comes down to them something entirely different?
Upon the facts, it will be found that what is taught in their name is often next to nothing resembling the original message.
Oftentimes, quite the opposite!
But to what end?
And for what purpose?
There appear to be two opposite poles to that purpose. One's motive is obviously apparent but the other, at first glance, can seem illogical only to reveal itself as quite logical:
The Facts are shunned and the Truth is rejected by both, those "in power" and those "under power".
FIRST, we know that those in power can manipulate the needs of those under power, leveraging them in such a way that those in power benefit at the expense of those under power.
We also know that if the Facts and the Truth about how those in power control those under power were revealed to them, those in power would lose their hold over the control they exercised for the simple reason that the "veil would be lifted".
Therefore, it is in the best interest of those in power for those under their power NOT to have the Facts and know the Truth.
In fact, if you explore history and separate the facts from the the delusioned imaginings of superstitious and power-hungry men, you will find that the Master Jesus was murdered not to "save the world from Hell"...
He was murdered because he knew the Facts and the Truth, offered it to the people under power that they may free themselves, and so became a threat to those in power.
Thus, they killed him to protect their ability to control the masses.
SECOND, we know that those under power often receive many short-term benefits by submitting to the control of others.
We know that, regardless of the fact that accepting the short-term benefits brings with it long-term consequences, it's in our nature to want instant gratification.
And who has not taken a quick-fix, at some time or another, only to feel "stupid" for taking later — when the long-term consequences have grown to seed?
Therefore, it is a matter of "insulted pride".
For to learn and — much, much more difficult — to accept when we've been foolish enough to be "played" and even "bribed" can and often does deeply offend our egos.
So we often ignore the Facts and reject the Truth with no other motive than to "save face".
For example, take practically any religious fanatic or medium and, if you have eyes for observing the Facts and revealing the Truth, you will find the true motive for his beliefs is not so much his faith in them as it is that he would feel "stupid" to admit to himself or anyone else that he still believes in "fairytales".
After all, why are they often so adamant about impressing their views on others without invitation?
Is it that they don't want to be the only ones "looking foolish, going down with a sinking ship"?
In fact, I've discovered that THAT — right there — is the greatest danger of refusing to acknowledge that which is within myself but I am either hesitant to give my attention to or would rather ignore for no other reason than to protect my pride.
It always has — and likely always will put me at the mercy of being "under power".
What we ignore in ourselves serves only as a short-term benefit to preserve our pride — at the long-term expense and consequence of damning ourselves!
So mark it well:
It is a fact that it is impossible to be "under power" when Ignorance has been eliminated through the recognition of the Facts, Superstition has been wiped away by the forthcoming revelation of the Truth, and Fear completely annihilated by the application of the Knowledge gained thereby!
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Death, Life, Sex and Money
» Thursday, October 15th, 2009 at 05:33am |
There's a very small selection of things in this life that I've thought about for quite some time now, especially over the last year.
In fact, these things, along with love, tend to be the objects or events that consume our minds for probably the majority of our waking hours?
Yet how often do we actually stop to think about what we're thinking about?
Here they are:
Death, life, sex, and money.
Perhaps these things could be presented in the reverse order for the simple reason that they often appear, at least in our culture, to run along a rational or sequential progression:
For isn't it true that, on some level, we want money perhaps first and foremost because we think it will give us, in some way, more opportunities for sex?
Or if not that, isn't our underlining desire or motive for it because we think it will serve as an indicator to women — or a specific woman — of how masculine or worthy we are, and therefore we pursue it to gain that end?
And for what?
Because we think the outcome will solve all our problems and our lives will finally be "complete" or "perfect"?
Yet in this pursuit, don't we often find ourselves wondering, "If we're going to die, likely in a few decades and in comparison to a possible eternity as many "Wise Men" have declared as a fact, what do these things really matter, especially if they won't serve us after death when life as we know it comes to an end?"
Is it enough to live a "good" life, filled with every pleasure this life has to offer and indulge our desires and appetites to our satisfaction... and then we are no more?
Or does this life offer more to us?
Is there more to this life than surviving and procreating only to die and cease to be?
If Nature has a definite purpose and plan, as She seems to have in every other department we can physically investigate, is it simply the survival of the human race and nothing more?
Or is there more to it than that?
Since most of us would probably agree that we are not like the animals. We are are more evolved. We have better developed powers and capacities.
And based on these facts, do we still share the same "fate"?
Or do our individualities lay the foundation for a purpose greater than the animal?
Is there more to this life than the pursuit of money and sex, and trying to prolong the inevitable, death?
What do you think?
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The Critical Difference Between Love and Obsession
» Tuesday, October 13th, 2009 at 07:03pm |
There was a time when I wasn't too fond of the idea of "Love".
Maybe it began when I started exploring so-called "self-help", only to encounter various "gurus" who sounded no different than hippies who mistake "peace" for an excuse to argue and "love" for permission to indulge the animal passions.
Or maybe it went further back, as I had many family members claim to "love" me as I grew up while their behavior proved the opposite.
Their language was filled with "love" but their actions revealed the opposite.
It seems to me that some are in love with the idea of "Love".
And for what purpose?
Though they may not realize it, it's often used as a means of control and manipulation.
The motive, of course, is generally the fear of loneliness.
This, simply, is an effect of ignorance... and who can do something different than what they know — though there is the choice to seek the Truth.
I susecpt that most but perhaps the truly Wise would take offence to being called ignorant.
But the facts of Life remain the same, age after age.
The reason is simple:
Nature is immutable, and She governs Life.
With that, here's perhaps one of the most — if not THE most important discovery I've made:
"The basis of Love is founded on the absence of the desire to control others."
And when it comes to the Sex Relationship between a man and a woman, True Love can only be present to the degree to which neither partner has any urge to control the other, and in any way whatsoever.
And the only way I know this to be possible is for both partners to have mastered themselves, their "animal" instincts, fears and passions — or their Destructive Nature.
Awareness of ourselves being the foundation, for to know ourselves is to know Nature and Nature's purposes.
It will be found that the greater our ability to control and check these Destructive Impulses, the lesser our desire to control our partners to the exact same degree.
So if these processes are the basis underneath the concept of True Love and we're given a concept that contradicts it, what does that mean to us?
What happens when we're led to believe that something that isn't true to the facts is the truth?
Don't we believe in a lie — or at best, a misconception?
When we're bombard with films and television, where characters are supposedly "in love", yet on the one hand they smother and fawn over their lover with gifts and flowers backed by the unconscious motive of control, while on the other hand they seek vengeance for being scorned, the opposite pole of control.
Is that Love?
Or is it Obsession?
And if these are, in truth, different operations (which I consider to be near polar opposites), what distinguished one from the other?
Perhaps it can be best put this way:
What if we were told that the word for the color blue was red?
Or what if we were color blind since birth, and by a "miracle" our sight was restored?
Wouldn't that mean that when we saw the color blue, which may now be perceived as our old red, wouldn't we have difficulty identifying it?
Wouldn't we start calling the color blue red for the simple reason that the attributes of that color have, through our entire experience and memory, been associated with it?
In the same way, what if this same scenario has been the case with Love?
What if we have come to call "Love" what is in actuality, upon the facts of Nature, Obsession — instead of having the capacity to recognize it for what it truly is?
And if this analogy holds true, is it any wonder True Love is rare?
Is it any surprise that we fail to find it over and over again, no matter what method we try next?
Perhaps the reason is simple...
Maybe the reason is because what we try is an effort that contradicts its essential nature.
If it is true that the basis of True Love is the absence of desire to control our partner, and if you consider what you've experimented with or tried in the past to satisfy your "love life", would I be correct to assume that the focus of these methods was to control or get a woman to do or feel what we want them to?
Maybe the problem isn't with women.
Maybe it's not with us either.
Perhaps it's in the approach or attitude toward Love, itself.
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Make This Resolution Today!
» Monday, September 28th, 2009 at 11:53pm |
Shakespeare said: "To thine own self be true."
Before that, the Greeks said: "Know thyself."
But what does it mean to know ourselves?
What does it mean to be "true" to ourselves?
It's taken me some time but I've discovered this to mean that we know the facts and we recognize the truth about ourselves.
Or in other words:
We understand Human Nature, both its constructive and destructive sides, and have also reached a point where we can identify these elements in ourselves.
The first problem can be accomplished relatively easily by reading the right information.
But the second problem is a little more difficult.
Here's why...
You know how when someone does something that is "working against them" and they seem to be clueless about what kind of affect it's having on their results or how others receive them?
You probably generally don't tell them, do you?
I mean, why would you?
For example, imagine a woman telling a guy who walked up with some cheesy pick-up line that it's not working and he should just relax and act like a "normal guy".
Of course, it does happen.
But it seems like most women have learned early on that responding this way is just going to bring them grief because the guy's generally going to get defensive and resentful and label them a "bitch".
I have met the very rare ones who do "say it like it is", however.
The thing about them is they're very strong:
They simply assert the facts without condemning them or using them as a way to make themselves "superior", and they refuse to accept a defense.
They expect that the facts and the truth will not be argued.
They will only be accepted, without exceptions.
I find no trait, perhaps, more attractive in a woman than this very quality.
Furthermore, when we do something annoying or have an irritating or negative habit, most of our friends, family or associates generally don't tell us either, do they?
So how are we supposed to figure these things out if we can't see them?
And if no one will tell us?
When I've recognized something "negative" in myself and I'm willing to accept it because I want to know the truth in order to change and I've asked a friend for an objective opinion, I've found some tend to try to excuse it for me!
I've never quite figured out why.
And perhaps it's gone the other way around too.
Maybe they have a reason to believe I'll get defensive about it and blame them and they simply want to avoid that.
Or maybe they don't want me to acknowledge it because they secretly don't want me to change.
I don't know.
So if these are the obstacles we have to work with, where does that leave us?
How do we get the facts about ourselves?
And how do we know the truth about ourselves if we don't have the facts, or they're inaccurate, or they're mere assumptions — or even ideals that don't hold true to reality?
In dealing with this problem, I've found one critical resolution absolutely necessary:
Prepare to accept EVERYTHING, especially the embarressing or those facts about ourselves that are going to insult our pride.
The reason is simple:
We'll never see what we're not open to seeing, and if the things we need to see the most are exactly those things we would rather not, how does that help us?
So remember this:
Where the ego was not insulted, no great lesson was ever learned.
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