How Social Anxiety is Really Learnt and Overcome
» Monday, December 7th, 2009 at 08:01am |
Though psychologists, of whom most gain their apparent knowledge by sitting in classrooms reading textbooks often written by others who also sat in classrooms and read textbooks — yet have no actual Knowledge based upon direct, personal experience (as that's where true Knowledge comes from), tend to label Social Anxiety an "illness", like practically every other "mental illness" they can categorize and compartmentalize.
But does this justly serve the purpose back of it... or is it simply a reflection of the rigid, analytical, and calculative mind of the psychologist?
And furthermore, is the psychologist's unconscious intention in so doing a means of satisfying their own Intellectual Vanity (as it will be noted is a common character flaw amongst many professionals or specialists — though the ones who don't have it are always exceptional in their field and have no shortage of business!)?
I think John Lennon had it almost right when he said, "I tell them there's no problems, only solutions."
The problem is the problem, when extended beyond accumulating the necessary facts required for the solution.
The reason is simple:
Focusing purely on the problem leaves no attention left for handling the solution.
And how can a problem be solved if the solution is never even considered or welcomed and brought into the equation?
It will be found that any person with a so-called "mental illness" who has been encouraged to Pity themself for their "affliction" has essentially removed the foundation upon which recovery is founded.
Yet what do "expert" psychologists do?
Though I've never seen one (despite the fact that many of my family members, ignorant to the operations and processes of the human mind or Consciousness, have often thought me crazy over the years) — and maybe I don't know all the facts, but it seems most psychologists, during their "sessions", tend to actually ferment the Pity by "talking about" the problem past the point of the practicalities of identification and awareness necessary to lay the foundation for the solution...
The very thing that undermines "recovery".
Thus, what clients actually learn is that if they talk about their "affliction", someone listens to them and "understands" them. And, since it is an "expert", they come under the unconscious belief — and misconception — that acting out this dynamic is actually helping them improve.
That's what therapy seems to really teach.
And the results?
All one need do is visit a "coping with anxiety" site or forum to see the destructive effects...
I once stopped by one of these forums only to find myself somewhat shocked that the forum leader did not well receive my claim that it is not only a possibility to be completely overcome but a certainty (if effort is directed along the right lines)... and I was actually banned for giving people who took an active interest in what I was saying Hope!
Thus is the danger of focusing on the problem; the solution becomes a threat and is shunned by those who are attached to being "afflicted" and, under the direction of their fear, will furthermore take active effort in making Knowledge unavailable to those who are truly interested in it.
The reason is simple:
The "afflicted" have learned, though perhaps unconsciously, to enjoy the short-term benefit of receiving or administering sympathy — only to damn themselves and generate silent animosity in the listener — therefore, for it to become unacceptable based on others' recognition of its counter-productiveness would remove the opporunities.
It will be found this is generally learned by someone looking at another as a "victim" and "playing therapist":
One individual gets to feel "appreciated" and "smart"; the other gets attention and feels "understood".
Being that I've "suffered" from so-called social anxiety, especially during my early to mid-twenties, I've learned quite a bit about its operation as well as how, I suspect, it is probably always learnt.
The origin is quite easy to determine:
Just look at how the individual's close associates "asked" for their attention and you will discover the exact cause of the habit, which could be said to leave a passive imprint of the active method of how their attention was, more accurately, "demanded" without the choice of consent — just as sand will leave a reverse replica of a stone being dropped on it.
It will be found that the person, during their formative years, was in close association with someone who mixed the "Awareness of Presence" phase and the "Initiation" phase of communication into one singular moment — leaving out the two critical phases inbetween (Recognition and Consent), necessary for seamless Receptivity, wherein "Mental Health" is, upon the facts of Human Consciousness, found.
Or demonstrated more simply and in the most extreme case:
As in to approach someone from behind and say something to them before they've even acknowledged that there is someone in their radius, wanting their attention and participation.
Using myself as an example, this was the cause I discovered was the exact circumstance upon which I learned, through my Instinctive Channel, my anxiety:
My father was the type of guy who "sneaks" up on people from behind and startles them with his abrasive, barking voice before they even know he's there.
Thus, through repeated exposure to this dynamic which eliminates the presence of the two phases inbetween from one's Consciousness, a habit is formed which anticipates the same behvaior from others.
And so in like situations in the future Blanks are unconsciously inserted in a person's Receptivity at these key areas — which translate into physical expressions.
These expressions tend to cause others, through their own Instinctive Channel, to respond to match the anticipated behavior of the outward expression.
The scientific basis of anxiety will be found in these conditions:
The peripheral attention is over-active at the expense of and while the focused attention is under-active.
Which is why it will be observed that the outward expression is that even very small movements perceived by the senses will cause the individual to quickly shift their focus onto it, with little capacity for deliberation.
Thus, recovery is achieved by learning to balance the two attention fields.
In fact, my discoveries that later evolved into the Practical Applications back the Science of Masculine Power where revealed through self-observation of Social Anxiety and, in a way, "reverse-engineered" as will quite clearly be seen inside.
Thus, to you who have dealt with social anxiety or any other so-called "mental illness" and perhaps who have had ignorant, arrogant fools attempt to confirm it in you (for the simple reason that they would feel insecure to see you arise above it, and thus have their pride wounded to be forced to acknowledge that they could have been wrong) remember it is not a permanent "affiliction".
It is only a temporary habit that can be overcome with time and effort in the same way that a rope can be unravelled and snapped in time by putting in the necessary effort.
The secret is this:
Social Anxiety is eliminated to the exact degree to which an individual can reclaim and remain Receptive at the key areas he has habitually learnt, through repetition usually during his formative years, to Blank at.
For when this has been accomplished, the symptoms disappear.
Furthermore, due to the renewed outward expression of Power which replaces them, those who prey on other people's weakness will not only stop their attempts but also reap the humiliation the seed of their ego has so justly brought upon them.
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Fear of Ill-Health, Begone!
» Thursday, November 12th, 2009 at 07:43am |
When was the last time you woke-up in the morning, worried that you might get murdered that day?
If you're in the majority of our civilized population, I'm willing to bet that it's probably never happened.
Or how about this:
How many mornings per week do you wake-up and immediately begin worrying that you will die in a car accident that day?
Again, I'm willing to bet that, unless you've recently had an accident and the experience is still affecting you, you don't ever worry about it when you wake-up, no less whenever you get into a car.
And finally, if there's a "deadly virus on the loose" that has consumed the media, like the H1N1 in Canada right now, how often do you wake-up and think about getting it?
I'm willing to bet there are quite a few people who do.
The point is this:
I just took a look at all the stats for my location, and guess what?
First, being that I live in the area that has the highest murder rate in Canada, there were about 44 murders in 2008.
Fatal car crashes?
This year, up to the month of July, 60 — so perhaps that's about 120 a year.
H1N1?
From what I found, apparently only 1!
So why is it such a big deal?
Is there, according to the stats, a legitimate reason?
And just why is it that we can fear something that we have much, much less of a chance of dying from in comparison to what we face on a "regular" daily basis, yet don't fear?
For, upon the facts, it shouldn't make logical sense, should it?
After all, logically, according to the stats, since we have a bigger chance of being murdered and a much bigger chance of being killed in a car accident than of contracting this virus, why is it that dying in a car crash or getting murdered generally doesn't terrify us — and the possibility doesn't even cross our minds (unless perhaps we find ourselves in a situation where it may become relevant) but when a so-called "epidemic" takes hold of the culture, we let it paralyze us?
I mean, it would be logical if one in two people were dying from it... but less than 1 in 100,000?
And compared to 44 in 100,000 — or 120 in 100,000, of which we're essentially exposed to and at risk of almost everyday?
But then again, when was fear ever rational?
It's been my experience that the fear of ill-health is no different.
Years ago, I thought that I'd caught something for no other reason than that I didn't wear protection on one occasion.
I started studying all the STD's, looking for symptoms that would, apparently, confirm I had something!
I spent endless days worrying about it and discussed it with a friend, who logically suggested I get it checked.
But the interesting thing was that, even after I got checked out by the doctor and he insisted all my tests came back negative, I was still convinced that I had something — and that he was wrong.
Why?
I had no idea at the time but this illogical behavior is a natural and predictable side-effect of the fear of ill-health having burrowed itself into my subconscious mind.
We know that the major sign we can look for to identify whether or not we've let the fear of ill-health take hold of our minds is to notice if or how often we look for and expect to find symptoms.
That we think we're "doomed".
We know that hypochondria is the strongest indicator that the fear of ill-health has made a home for itself inside our minds, perhaps unknown to us.
And upon this fact, is it not better to forget all symptoms.
Is it not better to be that 1 in 100,000 to die and yet to have lived the remainder of life free of fear and worry than it is to have spent endless time worrying about and discussing it, yet end up alive only to have let the fear dig itself deeper into the subconscious — where it goes unnoticed yet controls us from the unknown recesses of the mind, even after "the scare" has long since passed?
Fear of ill-health, begone!
For when it's taken hold of the subconscious mind, it will be noted that we lose the awareness to notice or recognize when we start using our hypochondria to get others' pity and attention by telling them about our symptoms.
And for what?
Only to annoy them and penalize ourselves by confirming the fear.
Fear of ill-health, begone!
For when we let the fear of ill-health infect us, we start trying all sorts of crazy "remedies", "fad diets", and "exercise programs" or popping pills in anticipation of things we create only by worrying about them.
It is well known by doctors that something like 80% (don't quote me on that, but it's high) of patients who make appointments suffer from nothing more than hypochondria.
Therefore, fear of ill-health, begone!
"Every man dies, not every man truly lives," said William Wallace in Braveheart.
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The Secret To Good Health
» Saturday, September 5th, 2009 at 09:06pm |
Isn't it amazing that health seems to be on the decline whenever so-called "modern medicine" is on the rise?
Why is it that we have a "disease" or "disorder" for just about every symptom?
And why does modern medicine go about treating these "diseases" and "disorders" by administering drugs that generally do nothing more than numb our senses natural signals to the obvious fact that we need to take action of some kind?
If I start banging my head against the wall, will a doctor tell me that I have headbangitis?
Will he "cure" me by administering some new vaccine that will stop my head from throbbing and then tell me he has "cured" me of my terrible affiction?
Or would he just say: "You fool! Stop banging your head against the wall!"
I'm pretty sure it's obvious.
Now, it's been my experience that most — if not perhaps all — "clinical" dignoses are exactly the same as hitting our heads against a wall and then looking for a "cure" while our heads are still banging against the wall.
Over my life, I've had people and some doctors tell me I'm "this" or I have "that" at different times.
But you know what I've noticed about such people?
They're scared of poor health.
How do I know? Or how do you know when someone's afraid of ill health?
Simple:
They talk about disease often in normal conversation, they whine about their afflictions or they constantly expect to "get something".
That's just a fact.
And if you've the observant type, I'm sure you've already noted that most of us — if not all of us at one time or another — tend to project our own fear-based judgements onto other people and then actually believe it applies to them when it may only really apply to ourselves.
But you know what?
There's nothing "wrong" with us — there's absoluely NOTHING "wrong" with us!
In fact, the only thing that could be said to be "wrong" with us is that we work against Nature, whether consciously or unconsciously, and she simply issues her penaties upon us according to Her Laws...
In the exact same way that depriving ourselves of oxygen will eventually kill us.
We're just doing subtle things that break down the body's resistence and protection, perhaps we don't know what they are, and then we have so-called "experts" tell us that we should take something to "cure" it, which actually only succeeds at stopping the very "signals" that are trying to tell us we need to do something to take care of ourselves.
This is the secret to bad health... as well as the secret to good health.
Observing myself and my poor health habits over the years with some insights drawn from my study of the Alexander Technique, I've discovered that our state of health, whether good or bad, has an exact process underlining it and the ROOT of the problem is in our thoughts!
This is not some mumbo-jumbo, new-agie BS.
It's factual and scientific.
Here's how it works:
- Allowing negative thought impulses like fear, anger, envy, greed, etc. into our minds causes a reaction throughout the entire body which alters the accuracy of our senses — and "blurs" the impressions they receive
- When the impressions our senses receive become inaccurate our true needs also become unrecognizable to the exact same degree
- Our unmet needs become so normal that the deficiency no longer registers because we no longer have the contrast to make the distinction
- We stop fulfilling our needs because the natural signals stop being received and interpreted for what they truly mean
- We become too proud to admit we are the cause of our suffering so we look for outside excuses to justify it — medication, religionous mania, intellectualism, etc.
Thus, the only true way to good health is to master our thoughts — or emotional reactions to situations we face.
For when our thoughts have been mastered, it's been my experience in moments of clarity that our needs clearly reveal themselves to us with no need for "logic" or "premeditation".
We do or stop doing what we need accomplished for good health without planning or calculating.
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